Starting
Point AIDS
and a God who is mercy
As part of the World AIDS Day (Dec. 1) candlelight vigil at the
Unitarian Universalist Church of Arlington, Va., Holy Ghost Fr. James K. Healy
gave an address from the perspective of a Catholic priest living with AIDS. An
occasional contributor to this page, Healy wrote the following reflections for
NCR.
By JAMES K. HEALY
When a Catholic priest is found to
have AIDS, it is no more tragic than for the next person, since we are all
equally precious in God's eyes. But it certainly has a unique poignancy for the
faithful.
They have been taught over the years to stand in awe of the
courage and self-denial their priests express in their solemn commitment to
celibacy as a personal gift to the church. Is this then proof of a betrayal of
a sacred trust between priest and people? Can there be some perfectly innocent
explanation of how a priest might contract HIV other than through a violation
of his vow?
One well-meaning physician suggested I might imply I contracted
the virus through a transfusion while working in East Africa. One problem with
his suggestion is not only that it's not true, but that I left Africa in 1973
and therefore would almost certainly be the longest living AIDS survivor in the
world!
The simple but painful truth is that I do have AIDS and have been
HIV positive for many years. I shared that fact with very few people. I was
determined it should not become the central fact of my life and I believed I
still had a few good homilies in me as well as freedom to continue my pastoral
ministry.
I think I made the right decision but, inevitably, the first
subtle symptoms began to manifest themselves and I chose to retire rather than
risk the decision being taken out of my hands by new complications.
I have been under a physician's care and have been given the new
protease medications, which might turn this disease around. The fact that I'm
still here may be cause for greater hope than I dared to expect. But, like
others, I try not to get my hopes too high.
I regret that constant fatigue makes it almost impossible to do
creative things, much less continue my active ministry. I am kept humble if not
guilty by the fact that my medical plan provides $2,500 a month for my
medications, while so many are left without effective treatment.
Meanwhile, with so much time and quiet at my disposal, I have been
free to reflect on my life, my commitment to ministry, the deeper implications
of the church's law of celibacy, demanded as a precondition to ordination, and
the church's seeming obsession with sins of the flesh, while too easily
accepting structural injustices that constantly oppress the poor and
powerless.
From childhood I always wanted to be a priest. I was fascinated by
every facet of the priest's role, bringing comfort to those in distress and
reassurance to those with doubts about God's love and forgiveness. Of course, I
was not indifferent to the ritual mysteries and the deference of the
people.
I never seriously considered any other vocation and, when I was
ordained in 1962, I felt a tremendous sense of fulfillment. But I can say quite
candidly that I never personally embraced celibacy as a gift from me to God or
a grace from God to me. It was something I had to accept as the price of the
priesthood I never wavered from wanting.
There was no apparent way to solve my sad dilemma. I could have
summoned the courage to leave the ministry and find a deep personal
relationship. But in fact that was no answer, because of my sexual orientation.
The church had condemned the type of relationship for which I longed. To be in
sync with the hierarchic church, I was destined to be celibate, like it or
not.
In the context I have described, you won't be terribly surprised
that I became persuaded of the emptiness of celibacy for me. In time I made
decisions at odds with my vows -- some very foolish, unfortunate decisions for
which I now pay a terrible price.
I must never deny responsibility for those decisions or try to
contrive some innocent excuse. But neither can I deny that we priests have long
realized that the institutional church has done extraordinary harm to both the
laity and to us in its adamant stance on all sexual issues. We do well to
remember that this is the same institutional church that only in our time gave
approval to Galileo's discoveries and more recently gave us permission to
explore the notion of evolution.
I will never regret becoming a priest. The love and affirmation I
have experienced in my ministry is a priceless treasure to me. But I cannot
avoid a deep, abiding sense of sorrow for the many ways in which we have failed
to deal courageously with the sexual myopia of the institution. Perhaps my
belated decision to share these thoughts will encourage other priests to speak,
but I rather doubt it.
As for me, I will continue to draw strength from my oft- repeated
preaching, which insists, "We do not have a God who has mercy. Rather,
our God is mercy, love and forgiveness. Nothing shall I fear."
National Catholic Reporter, December 13,
1996
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