For gay Catholics, conscience is the
key By CHUCK
COLBERT
Judging the sinfulness of any particular act is a matter
ultimately between God and the individual person. This is the function of
ones conscience, which the Second Vatican Council described as the divine
voice echoing in our depths, as a law written by God in human hearts. A person
must always obey the certain judgment of his or her conscience.
The U.S. bishops chose to delete those three sentences from the
final draft of their recently published pastoral letter, Always our
Children, addressed primarily to parents of homosexual children.
Reading the deleted passage to an audience of nearly 200 people,
auxiliary bishop Thomas Gumbleton of the Detroit, Mich., diocese referred to
primacy of conscience as very sound theology. Gumbleton was on hand
to address a focus session at the Call to Action annual conference.
Why was primacy of conscience left out?
Some bishops were concerned about creating a loophole in church
doctrine and giving the impression that the church was deserting its teaching,
Gumbleton said. Active homosexuality or genital homosexuality is totally
against the teaching of the church, he said.
The bishops pastoral letter, while adhering to the
Vaticans prohibition against homosexual activity, makes a distinction
between chastity (or modesty and self-control) and celibacy
(abstinence from sexual activity).
The bishops write: Chastity means integrating ones
thoughts, feelings and actions, in the area of human sexuality, in a way that
values and respects ones own dignity and that of others.
But chastity for gays and chastity for non-gays means two
different things. Both the Vatican and the U.S. bishops still insist upon
mandatory celibacy for gays for life but not for non-gays.
OK to be gay, but dont act on it. Love the sinner, but hate
the sin. Thats the official line, with its inherently contradictory
message.
The Vaticans insistence on imposing the medieval discipline
of celibacy as a way of life on all homosexual people today rankles faithful
gay Catholics like me.
From my perspective, celibacy not freely chosen is repressed
sexuality, utterly irreconcilable with a gay-positive identity, self-respect
and dignity -- mine and that of others. In other words, obligatory celibacy is
tantamount to not experiencing a fully human life.
Isnt there also a double standard here? Doesnt this
standard unjustly preclude gay people from having what non-gays take for
granted -- intimate and loving, long-term committed relationships?
Unlike our non-gay counterparts, who can have sex by marrying, we
are asked not to experience either. Whats more, we cant marry in
the secular sphere while our church officially denies us the sacrament of
(same-gender) marriage in the spiritual realm.
Sex and marriage for some, but not for others. Or love for
non-gays, but not for gays. Thats how I hear the doublethink.
Does this thinking really make any sense? Not to Bishop Gumbleton,
who has an openly gay brother, Dan. Dan has a life partner. It is not
surprising, therefore, that the bishop has been able to comprehend fully the
double bind that church teaching imposes on gay Catholics.
Whats more, that [teaching] puts a homosexual person
in a terrible bind, said Gumbleton, because ... it seems absolutely
clear that genuine homosexual people have been homosexual from their earliest
years. It isnt something they chose in their teenage years or as an
adult.
Thats an essential and important part of the bishops
pastoral message: Gay people dont choose their sexual orientation.
How then does a person deal with the teachings of the church
and stay faithful to the teaching? the bishop asked.
Every person has to come to a point of personal growth where
we fully integrate sexuality into our whole lives -- not repress it. Each
person, struggling to be a whole person, must deal with this very serious
question of conscience, Gumbleton said.
For an increasing number of us, its the churchs very
own teaching -- a carefully informed conscience as the ultimate guide in every
moral decision -- that empowers us to remain good, faithful gay Catholics and
be sexually active, in spite of hurtful pronouncements from the Vatican.
Primacy of conscience is the gay Catholics way through the
double standard in church teaching about homosexuality.
Following ones conscience is also a good practice for
anyone.
Primacy of conscience is a very important piece of Catholic
teaching said Gumbleton. Its not up to anyone of us to judge
anyone else.
Ultimately, the judgment of sinfulness -- at least for believers
-- is a matter best left to God. Its too bad the bishops missed a chance
to say that.
Freelance writer Chuck Colbert of Cambridge, Mass., serves on
the board of directors of the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists
Association.
National Catholic Reporter, January 16,
1998
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