Viewpoint Weve got cafeteria Catholics
on the right, too
By WILLIAM C. GRAHAM
When first I was named a pastor, it
became immediately clear to me that in addition to pastoral solicitude, I
needed also to cultivate a certain prudence (I hesitate to quote Matthew 10:16:
See, I am sending you out like sheep into the midst of wolves; so be wise
as serpents and innocent as doves), as well as an appreciation for the
issues involved in maintaining and passing on our traditions.
Once, a parishioner I had known for years before becoming pastor
seemed to lapse in her attendance at the Sunday Eucharist. I inquired,
gingerly, concerning her whereabouts. She informed me that since her aged
mother was now in a Catholic nursing facility, she attended Sunday Mass there
with her.
Because this woman seemed to consider herself more Catholic than
God, I pointed out that under the current Code of Canon Law (the new code not
yet having been promulgated), she could not fulfill her Sunday obligation in a
semipublic oratory. So, it seemed to me, she should feel bound to worship twice
on Sunday: once, in charity, with her mother, and once, by virtue of fulfilling
the law, with her parish community.
Though I had known this woman for years, I have never seen her
eyes open quite so wide before or since, and the magnification behind her thick
lenses gave me something of a start.
Certainly one should not abandon her parish for months or years,
even if worshiping elsewhere. My attitude was correct, I think, even if my
rigor in pointing to the law might raise eyebrows. I wanted and even needed,
however, to be a rigorist in this case. I was admittedly smug with having made
a preemptive strike at someone I felt sure would challenge my own orthopraxis.
I pointed out that she was what might be termed a cafeteria
Catholic, deciding for herself which rules and laws applied to her.
I did not know what an impression I made until some months later.
A new religious order priest arrived in town. He called me later to tell the
story of being at a social event with the bishop, my canon law-defying friend
and her husband.
Waiting to be introduced to the bishop, the new priest heard this
woman, then unknown to him, complain to the bishop: And then he told me I
have to attend Mass twice on Sunday. She filled in the details. The
bishop roared (his voice frightened those who did not know him well): You
tell Fr. Graham that he is pre-Vatican I! There I stood revealed as not
just a preconciliar pastor but preconciliar to the second power.
She never reported to me the encounter with His Excellency. But
this woman and I came to be quite good friends and we learned to appreciate one
anothers contributions to church and city. I pointed out in her the very
behavior she expected of me and, that done, we settled into a new appreciation
of persons and issues.
Why is it that folks who regard themselves as conservatives can do
most anything they like, but those regarded as liberals stand accused as
cafeteria Catholics? If we are to be faithful both to our gospel call and to
our roots, we need to examine this question, I think.
What about those fearful and angry souls who remain within the
Roman church but, in their outrage, seem to forget the promise of Christ to
Peter, that on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades
will not prevail against it (Matthew 16:18). To forget or rework the
words of Jesus, or to suggest that one knows better than the Messiah or the
Spirit, seems to me the worst kind of liberalism. This, too, is cafeteria
Catholicism.
Where is the common ground that the late Cardinal Joseph Bernardin
encouraged us to seek? While previous generations debated with those they
termed the separated brethren -- today greeted with dignity and
respect -- now we Catholics seem to engage one another in internal warfare,
which is not helpful to the church or any individual member.
Those who see themselves as conservative seem to suggest that no
conversation is necessary since they have both pope and truth in their
corner.
Others, characterized as liberals, are often ready for dialogue,
thinking that when the opposing camp listens long enough, they will at last be
converted.
Together both camps need to seek the truth that liberates.
Fr. William C. Graham, who writes NCRs Bookshelf
column, is a priest of the Duluth, Minn., diocese and an associate professor of
religious studies at Caldwell College, Caldwell, N.J., where he directs the
Caldwell Pastoral Ministry Institute.
National Catholic Reporter, April 23,
1999
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