Starting
Point Angels come in unlikely forms
By DIANE E. HILL
Im Ida, the middle-aged,
African-American woman said with a smile like sunshine as she confidently
entered my house. Her hair was beautifully cornrowed, and she wore a bright,
multicolored dress over her small, round figure.
I had been waiting anxiously for her. Exactly a week after my
hysterectomy, an ambulance had rushed me to the emergency room when I started
to bleed from the surgical incision.
The E.R. doctor tried to get in touch with my surgeon, but he was
out of town. Im going to put a bandage on this, he said.
Theyll take care of you tomorrow at the university clinic. He
then said curtly, If your intestines fall out tonight, get to the
hospital fast.
Im a person who worries about recurrent hangnails, so
if your intestines fall out kept me up, terrified, for most of the
night. The next day at the clinic, the young doctor said, A hematoma or
blood clot has formed and eaten a hole into your abdomen. After swabbing
out blood and clots, the doctor measured the wound. An inch down,
she said, and a 3-inch tunnel down your navel. Youre going to need
visiting nurses to clean and pack the wound until it heals.
I had an open hole in my stomach, exposing me to the possibility
of infection, which might or might not be treatable with antibiotics. The fear
Id felt since the trip to the emergency room intensified. Would I live
through this? What would the visiting nurses be like? I quickly realized they
would be my lifelines and I waited anxiously.
As Ida unpacked, cleaned and repacked my wound, she told us she
had been a wound care nurse for the Department of Veterans Affairs for 25 years
before switching to a career as a visiting nurse. After several other visits,
we also learned that she was childless but had several godsons at
her church where she sang in the choir every Sunday.
Each time the wound was unpacked was an ordeal for me. Not because
of pain, but because of my constant apprehension about infection. Sensing my
fear, Ida took my mind off of what was happening by telling me about her
travels. I went to Japan with my godson. It was wonderful. And my sister
and I are going to Korea to see my niece who is in the Army.
Often, the nurses registry did not send Ida. Many of the
other nurses were coldly efficient, and on one occasion, one of them felt a
lump just above the wound and said it might be the beginning of an
infection.
This sent me into a tailspin of worry until Ida came. Close to
tears, I showed her the lump.
Diane, Ida said, lifting her purple blouse, look
here. I saw the same sort of lump on her side. Thats my gall
bladder scar. All incisions heal that way. Youre healing, Diane. What you
need to do is to take your worry and give it over to God.
God. I had skateboarded through life on 47 years of good luck and
good health. My attention to my spiritual life consisted of Mass on Christmas
and Easter and the rote prayer I said every night, which was more a
superstitious exercise than a conversation with the Lord. I was always too
busy, too earthbound to get spiritual.
Now I lay with a hole in my stomach, the most vulnerable Id
ever been in my life -- fearful and constantly on the verge of tears. Unable to
think about a future, even to write -- my favorite pastime. If there had ever
been a time I needed God, this was it.
But Ida didnt proselytize. She witnessed to her faith in the
way she lived her life -- lovingly caring for the niece shed raised, her
nieces boys and an elderly, chronically ill godfather. When
her brother in Florida became terminally ill with cancer, he moved to
California so Ida could nurse him. Ida lived life to the fullest and whenever
she came into our house, she brought the joy and love of that living with
her.
Do you think Im going to get well? I would often
ask.
Of course. Healing takes its own time. She would
measure our progress by putting a cotton swab into the wound. Little by little
there was less blood on the swab. See how far weve come,
shed say. It wont be any time at all before youre
fine.
And she was right. The day finally came when the tunnel had closed
and the hole was almost completely healed. Two months after I met her, Ida
officially discharged me and showed me all Id need to know about flying
solo with wound care.
Realizing my apprehension at being on my own, after Id
hugged her goodbye, she took my hand and said, Remember, Diane, with your
problem youll do the best you can, and that will be good
enough.
Though the wound is one of the worst experiences I have ever been
through, I am grateful for it because it brought Ida into my life and brought
me closer to God. Sometimes God puts human angels into our lives. Sometimes
their hair is delicately cornrowed and they wear dresses the color of the
rainbow. Ida was definitely mine.
Diane Hill writes from Solana Beach, Calif.
National Catholic Reporter, May 28,
1999
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