Viewpoint Australian pastor wonders if resigned priests
have a message
By JOHN KILINKO
It is 20 years since I was ordained
as a priest. I look at my ordination photographs occasionally, and I recall the
joy and wonder of that happy July evening in 1979.
It does cause some sadness, though, when I recognize that quite a
few of the priests present that night are no longer in active ministry.
I remember their example of youthful exuberance, and the hopes and
dreams they shared for what lay ahead. Some served for many years in various
parishes throughout the archdiocese, but they are not with us now.
A number of reasons lie behind their absence. Many of those who
have resigned the priesthood in the past 20 years have done so because of their
desire for meaningful and romantic intimacy with a partner (be they a woman or
a man).
The promise of celibacy precludes that individual intimate
connection and any genital activity that might follow.
However, some young seminarians and priests experience their first
falling in love while training for or even after ordination.
When that happens, they are faced with life-changing decisions. If
ordained, they must decide whether to stay, to leave, to become involved in a
secret affair or to suppress and deny the very human feelings they are
experiencing.
The priest may no longer be a young man either, and his decision
may include separating himself from a ministry that he has exercised all his
adult life.
Some who leave the priesthood would still be actively ministering
in parishes if it were possible to combine their priesthood and their desire
for a singular relationship with a partner.
So what happens to such men if they decide to leave? Some, sadly,
are never heard of again.
The process of laicisation (rescinding of priestly ordination) is
far from an easy one. The present pope appears willing to expedite only the
cases of those who are very old or those with life-threatening illness.
Many former priests have been told not to bother applying for
laicisation (and are then referred to as being on leave even though
they are married and have children).
Others have been asked to admit to being psychologically
disturbed so that their priestly obligations can be dispensed. They
find this demand to be demeaning (what is disturbed about falling
in love?) and feel that the church they have faithfully served for so long in
the past has rejected them.
And so they walk away angry and disillusioned.
Some choose to worship in other Christian denominations.
Quite a number continue to be part of parish communities, but are
restricted in how active a role they can play.
Some bishops will not even allow them to proclaim the word of God
or distribute Communion at weekend Masses.
To me, it seems quite silly and rather wasteful to ignore their
gifts and talents, especially in these times of low and ever-decreasing clergy
numbers.
Those talents include pastoral leadership, counseling, liturgical
expertise and parish administration.
It is even sadder when those gifts and talents are not just
ignored but actively rejected by the official church.
How can we continue to pray for an increase of vocations when we
turn our backs on men who have years of experience and who are willing to give
of themselves?
We should remember that a person is not ordained to the priesthood
or received into religious life as a reward for their piety, goodness or
holiness.
No, they are only ordained or professed because God chooses them,
and they have the courage to respond to that call. And God often chooses that
which is weak and fumbling and sinful. That is Gods business.
A question I often ask myself is why there arent as many
young men answering Gods call to priesthood these days. I believe that
the young people of today are no less generous than those in former days, and
they would be just as willing to respond if they received a call or invitation.
Could it be that the Lord is sending us a message?
Why call more when we say no to those who have already said yes
themselves?
A number of years ago I read the book Prophets or Losses
that recounted the stories of some of the Australian priests who left active
ministry in the 1960s and 70s because of the Humanae Vitae,
conscription, war and celibacy debates. The author invited his readers to
determine whether they considered the men who left priesthood to be unfortunate
but inevitable losses to the church, or prophets who had a message for the
church that was perilous to ignore.
Even though we live in different decades, with different issues
confronting us, it seems to me that the question is still relevant for us to
ask and answer today.
Fr. John Kilinko is pastor of St. Flannans parish in
Zillmere, Queensland Province, Australia. This article appears with permission
of The Courier-Mail in Brisbane.
National Catholic Reporter, September 3,
1999
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