Catholic Worker: Can it work as a family
activity?
By SHARON ABERCROMBIE
Special to the National Catholic Reporter San
Francisco
Could that young mother with the two
little boys, the one who sings lullabies and picks up toys in the living room,
possibly be a Catholic Worker? Surely, this isnt the same person who the
next morning is on the street convincing an angry man that he really
doesnt want to bash in the head of a soup kitchen volunteer with a lump
of concrete. Or is it?
The message here during a recent three-day conference for a group
of Catholic Worker families from across the country was dont go on
automatic pilot the next time Catholic Worker houses of hospitality for the
poor come up in conversation. Images of those volunteers who live simply
so that others may simply live are changing.
As the collective pursuit of material goods rages and the
war-making business still thrives, the kind of spirituality Dorothy Day
fostered is beckoning to young Catholic couples who want to serve the poor
according to radical gospel ideals. And who want to have a family life, as
well.
It was in 1933 that Day and Peter Maurin founded what became the
Catholic Worker movement, a non-profit nationwide ministry that works with the
homeless and hungry. Today there are 150 Worker houses throughout the United
States, plus a few in Europe and Australia as well.
But in 1933, Dorothy didnt give us models for families
who want to minister to the poor, Catholic Worker style, said Julia
Occhiogrosso, cofounder of the Las Vegas house of hospitality.
So Occhiogrosso is taking on the visioning process, herself, with
help from some colleagues. Last week, Occhiogrosso and Gary Cavalier, her
husband, convened a three-day conference at Bethany Presbyterian Church in San
Bruno, Calif., for other Catholic Worker couples throughout the United States.
It was cosponsored by San Bruno Catholic Workers Kate Chatfield and Peter
Stiehler, directors of St. Bruno Parishs homeless shelter.
The Oct. 11-13 conference was also open to couples who might not
minister in a Catholic Worker setting, but who need support and nurturing as
they strive to live radical gospel values and cultivate sustainable models of
economic simplicity and family life. Titled For the Long Haul:
Discipleship and Family Life, the conference explored such topics as
balancing ministry, resistance and healthy parenting, teaching gospel values to
children in the face of the challenge of consumerism, and creating a place for
family life within Catholic Worker communities.
Ochiogrosso said the two couples decided to sponsor a meeting
after attending a 1997 conference in Las Vegas celebrating Dorothy Days
100th birthday, where one session on family life drew a large number of
people.
Both couples are creating their own family models as they walk the
path themselves. Both couples live away from the homeless shelters or soup
kitchens they direct.
Kate Chatfield and Peter Stiehler used to take street people into
their home, but now they reserve a private space for themselves and their
daughter, Ella, 2-and-a-half years old. The couple is expecting their second
baby in December.
Some people might say this is a big compromise with our
ministry, but we feel it is better not to introduce our children to the
craziness and chaos that can sometimes take place in a shelter, said
Chatfield.
A Sacramento, Calif., native, Chatfield served as a Jesuit
volunteer before joining the Catholic Worker movement in 1993 in Los Angeles.
It was there that she met her future husband, Stiehler, who had also served in
the Jesuit volunteer corps. They founded the San Bruno Catholic Worker in 1996.
Before the St. Bruno Shelter, the couple ran a parish dining room for the
homeless. The shelter can accommodate 10 guests who usually stay about a month
before going on to transitional housing.
For Chatfield, the bottom line for balancing ministry and family
is to not place our work above the children. And to model ministry
instead of preaching about it. Even though Catholic Worker families live
in voluntary simplicity, that doesnt rule out such goodies as Christmas
gifts. Chatfield says it would be counterproductive and would build resentments
if she were to tell her children, We cant give you presents because
other kids wont have them.
For Julia Occhiogrosso, 38, the words family and
Catholic Worker are nearly synonymous. Her older sister, Rosemary, used
to live at the Los Angeles Catholic Worker House where she worked as a nurse
midwife at the clinic. Occhiogrosso, from Brooklyn, N.Y., first visited Los
Angeles the summer she graduated from high school. At the time, she said, she
had doubts that she would be able to live a good Christian life because of all
the contradictions she saw around her.
Then I went to the Catholic Worker and met adults who had
taken these values seriously. Their espousal of nonviolence, of seeing
the sacred in all of life and of serving the poor in community affected
Occhiogrosso profoundly. What they were doing made such sense to
me, she recalls.
After attending college for two years, Occhiogrosso went to the
L.A. Catholic Worker as a volunteer. That was in 1982. She met Gary Cavalier, a
volunteer at the San Luis Obispo, Calif., Catholic Worker.
Four years later, she attended the Nevada Desert Experience, a
prayer vigil and protest against nuclear testing at the Nevada Test Site. She
saw the superficiality of Las Vegas, with its glitter and gaming and its hidden
poverty, and was moved to start a Worker house there. The couple moved to
Nevada 13 years ago.
The Las Vegas Catholic Worker collaborates with the Interfaith
Hospitality Network, serving as a day site for homeless people making the
transition into apartments and jobs. Its volunteers also operate a breakfast
kitchen. When the couple first moved to Las Vegas, they took ice water out to
the streets, where day laborers queued for jobs each day, and asked them what
people needed. A place to get breakfast, they said.
Occhiogrosso and Cavaliers home came through a bureaucratic
requirement in the citys adoption system, the grace of God and a
contractor friends offer. The couple wanted to adopt two little brothers,
Jonathan, now 5, and Nicholas, 4, whom they had been caring for as foster
children. But the agency wouldnt let them do so until they had found a
home away from the Catholic Worker. A friend offered to help us build a
house if we could find a piece of land. We did. Its eight miles from the
Worker.
Occhiogrossos source of income differs somewhat from
Chatfields. Although also relying on donations, she works part-time
teaching a workshop for area parishes on active nonviolence. She is part of a
team of people who teach the course through Pace Bene, a Franciscan ministry.
Her husband, Gary, does the books and edits a newsletter for the Nevada Desert
Experience.
Occhiogrosso thinks it is important for Catholic Worker families
to develop cottage industries, where they can support themselves and still do
ministry. She also values the support of other families. So many of us do
these things in isolation, she said.
But perhaps, not for long. Recently, Occhiogrosso read a study
that said that in this years crop of college graduates, there has been a
definite shift away from interest in big money toward cultivating a successful
family life.
Thats pretty exciting for Occhiogrosso, who admits she
worries about her two boys interest in television and exposure to
commercials and materialism. Occhiogrosso says she will provide them with a
balance by exposing them to the poor, but at the same time allow them to have
their lives and make their own decisions. If we try to impose
selflessness, it might backfire, she said.
National Catholic Reporter, October 29,
1999
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