Column Christians need a sense of play for than vigilance
By JEANNETTE BATZ
We stomp through the door, snow
shaking down the back of my jacket, ice balls clinging to the dogs wet
fur like shells tangled in seaweed. Through frozen lips, I try to describe the
beauty of dogs running loose in a big, empty park, galloping in great wide
circles through two feet of snow, catching snowballs on a leap, rolling over on
their backs and making snow angels with their wagging tails.
My husband grins and brings towels, but his step is heavy;
hes not catching our mood.
Turns out hes fretting because he played too
much on Saturday and now feels the pile of chores and errands and projects
rebuking him, harsh as a Puritan magistrate.
I lose patience.
Why do you think we were put on this earth -- to do lots of
chores? When youre on your deathbed, do you think youll regret the
few times you cut loose and had fun with your friends, and wish youd put
up shelves in the garage instead?
He gives me a rueful smile and goes downstairs to screw in light
bulbs. Deep down, Andrew sees play as frivolity, a momentary escape from
lifes worthy purposes, justifiable only if youve finished all the
days jobs first.
I am finally beginning to see play as one of the worthiest
purposes of all, every bit as important as work, responsibility and daily
obligation.
The first clue came in my 20s, comparing notes with friends on
what we regretted about our teenage years. The answer streaked to the surface
like a diver out of air: I regretted not being wild. An obedient Catholic girl
in a navy-pleated, drop-waist jumper, Id always aimed to please. As a
result, I abided by the rules, took hardly any risks at all.
Didnt want to hurt the teachers feelings. Didnt
want to worry my mom.
In early adulthood, I grew bored with docility -- but it was too
late for keg parties. So I decided to compensate for my tame youth by
romanticizing gentle anarchy, holding up bohemian life as the ultimate freedom,
applauding the wild play that thumbed its nose at bourgeois rules.
That palled, too, because I had the structure backwards. Now I
know that play -- whether it comes in the form of sports or adventure, eros or
art -- has very definite rules.
Those rules focus and engage and absorb us, silencing times
relentless ticking and erasing anxious self-consciousness. Energy flows
smoothly outward from the center, connecting us to the world in which we play.
The result is not anarchy, but transcendent order, with play bringing its own
temporary perfection.
Does this mean play is unfree? Ah, no. There is great freedom in
agreeing on the limits. And play must always, by definition, be freely chosen;
if it is assigned or prescribed, it becomes dour duty.
Paging through the poems and sayings Ive painstakingly
copied over the years -- hoping to somehow inscribe them in my poor conditioned
pea-brain -- I realize how long Ive known I needed to lighten up. Plato,
says my notebook, insisted, Life must be lived as play. He said,
Man is Gods plaything, and that is the best part of him.
G.K. Chesterton noted that angels fly because they take
themselves lightly, and Oscar Wilde pronounced life much too
important to be taken seriously. Even the Talmud, sober tome though it
be, reminds us that man shall be called to account for all permitted
pleasures he failed to enjoy.
And Jesus didnt leave any tips on how to get your chores
done on time. He gave every ounce of love and energy -- but then he leaned back
and let Mary Magdalene rub perfumed oil into his tired feet. He played ever so
lightly with the Pharisees, he played when he spoke his parables, he played
with his disciples fears and idiosyncrasies, teasing them until they
relaxed, sure they were known at their core and loved regardless.
Christian folk today dont spend their time puzzling over
impish Zen koans, and its been centuries since we stood on our heads like
St. Francis. Instead, we show the world how serious we are and keep vigilant
watch for sacrilege. We assume that if youre playing publicly, you must
be mocking your subject.
Reminds me of all those dreadful playground games, when we had to
fight each other for turf or points or tokens, and somebody always had to lose
and feel the defeat.
For me, play isnt about competition at all. Its about
risk. Sometimes the thrilling tell-all or go-for-it risk of Truth or Dare (one
of the few games I did like) and sometimes the mellower risk of imagining
something different, expressing something thats always lived deep inside
you, or creating something thats never quite existed before.
A good marriage is play, building a tree house where two separate
minds can climb above the worlds demands, let down their guard, use a
secret handshake, talk in secret code.
Good liturgy is choreographed play, teaching us about God by
prying open our senses, minds and hearts with beauty, ritual and surprise.
And here, for my Puritan husband, is the paradox of play: Behind
its purposelessness lies deep and deliberate purpose.
In her book Deep Play, naturalist Diane Ackerman reminds us
that ants dont play; theyre programmed from birth to do what they
must. But humans and pups and chimps and those wondrous wrinkly oxymorons, baby
elephants, play incessantly. Its our way of testing ourselves and our
surroundings, keeping flexible enough to solve unforeseen problems as they
arise. The more an animal needs to learn in order to survive,
concludes Ackerman, the more it needs to play.
High utility, indeed.
Jeannette Batz is a staff writer for The Riverfront Times,
an alternative newspaper in St. Louis.
National Catholic Reporter, February 25,
2000
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