Ministry with gays and lesbians celebrates 15
years
By ARTHUR JONES
NCR Staff Eagle Rock, Calif.
In the darkened church moments before liturgy began, seconds
before those attending lit candles that would banish the darkness, a calm voice
rang out quoting scriptural injunctions against homosexuality. The man was led
gently out of St. Dominics Church. Outside, too, was a lone placard waver
who earlier had vainly tried to give those arriving for Mass pamphlets that
named AIDS as the plague in Revelations.
The Los Angeles archdioceses Ministry with Lesbian and Gay
Catholics has surmounted far larger obstacles than these on the way to this
celebration. On Feb. 4, some 600 lesbian and gay Catholics -- many with members
of their families -- a bishop and two dozen priests marked the ministrys
15th anniversary. There would have been three Los Angeles auxiliary bishops
present, but the scheduled presider, Bishop Gabino Zavala, and retired Bishop
Juan Arzube were taken ill. Bishop Joseph Sartoris was the celebrant.
The doors are open, this is our Jubilee, Carmelite Fr.
Peter Liuzzi, director of Ministry with Lesbian and Gay Catholics, told the
enthusiastic gathering. Fifteen years ago, said Liuzzi,
Cardinal Roger Mahony had the vision, and somewhere between 1986 and now
all of you saw that vision. Let the lesbian and gay Catholics fill the
churches, as we do tonight, to live out their call to discipleship by virtue of
their baptism.
Parents, as well as siblings and friends, are witnesses in
the church that orientation is all about family life, a life that
includes birth and church families, said Liuzzi.
At the rear of the church, a video camera recorded the event.
No doubt somewhere in the congregation, someone was taping every
word to send to Rome and the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith.
Ive probably got my own file drawer there, said Liuzzi during
an interview.
He, like the ministry, walks a fine line that adheres closely to
church teaching, but is fraught with obstacles.
[One major obstacle arose last year when The California
Catholic Bishops conference provided $300,000 to help support Proposition
22. Under the proposition, which was apporoved, Only marriage between a
man and a women is valid or recognized in California. Scores of members
left the archdiocesan organization.]
Lesbian Catholic Marilyn Piers of the St. Matthews, Long
Beach, group didnt walk away, but the episcopal war chest was a problem
for her. An attendee at the St. Dominics liturgy, she said that while she
still supports her parish, she stopped contributing to archdiocesan activities.
I didnt want them spending my money to fight me, she
said.
The churchs war chest was a major difficulty, too, for
Liuzzi, 11 years at the helm, and the ministrys third director. He
publicly attacked the decision because it allied the Catholic bishops with
Mormons, Dr. James Dobson and others who certainly do not share our
understanding -- doctrinal, pastoral or otherwise about homosexuality -- and
clearly are involved in a totally anti-gay agenda.
Dobson is founder of a conservative organization, Focus on the
Family, which is stridently anti-homosexual.
Summarizing the ministry, Liuzzi said, Ive come to
appreciate that in 1986 Cardinal Mahony was very astute. Theres a large
gay community in Los Angeles, true of all port cities in the country. And he
saw that pastorally and politically this was a concern. The key, though, I
think was his desire to never separate the gay and lesbian Catholic from
ordinary parish life. Thats why its ministry with not
ministry to.
To Liuzzi, the ministrys bottom line is that lesbian and gay
Catholics are baptized people, and the church, having baptized them, has
an obligation to them, and they to the church. If someones gay,
were not talking about a choice, its something thats
discovered. The bottom line is that were not following a sergeant. Like
the rest of the church, were following the Lord in a relationship. We do
the best we can, and that should be sufficient -- the rest is Gods love
and mercy that saves us.
Were saying, be ordinary Catholics, engage in all the
parishs ministries, said Liuzzi. There are things that are
problematic in the lives of all Catholics. Theres not a denial that the
teaching of the church is problematic, but were not attacking that
teaching. Were saying that its more important to admit, yes,
its problematic for many people, but also to get in there and live your
life, be authentic, and leave it up to the church to discern.
On issues of sexual practice, Liuzzi responds that
were not sidestepping anything. As for all Catholics, he
said, these are not easy questions. They are issues dealt with in
spiritual direction, with a confessor, on retreats.
We are dealing with devout people, he said. All
Catholics pray, grapple with their problems, make practical decisions. What we
are saying is sexual orientation can never be the entire focus of ones
life as a Catholic. It is part of a whole picture.
The ministry is very centrist, moderate, said Liuzzi.
The members are generally somewhat conservative people in fairly
conservative parish settings. I pay a price for that from a whole other
circle, he said.
Others, he said, charge that Im really compromising,
leading lesbians and gays to a kind of passive role. I agonize. Thats my
cross.
If thats Liuzzis downside, the upside, he said, is
that if, through the Los Angeles archdioceses approach, other
dioceses listen, then headway is being made.
He takes the same tack in his recently published book, With
Listening Hearts: Understanding the Voices of Lesbian and Gay Catholics
(Paulist Press; foreword by Stockton, Calif. Bishop Stephen E. Blair) that, he
said, was examined by four theologians before it was submitted for publication.
I hope, through the book, bishops will listen to me.
NCR sent the book to another priest, formerly a chaplain to
gay and lesbian Catholics. The priest, who did not want his name used, said the
book is always emphasizing that the ministry is in accordance with church
teaching. I can understand Peters need to do that, but its not my
concept of what the ministry should be doing.
The Ministry with Lesbian and Gay Catholics is certainly a boon to
the many parents of lesbians and gays who were at the St. Dominics
celebration, or who belong to one of the archdioceses four parents
support groups.
Marge Mayer, instrumental in establishing those support groups,
became involved in the ministry when her son, Tim, at 27, came out to his
family in 1990. After I got over the shock and surprise of having a gay
son, she said, I decided to get an education in what the church
taught.
She experienced, she said, what almost every parent in a similar
situation goes through: Did I cause my son to be gay? Did he choose to be
gay? And I soon learned, said Mayer, that I didnt cause it
and he didnt choose it, which was very comforting.
Even so, she said, over those first few weeks she was dealing with
the issue out of her emotions. Her husband dealt with it much
more easily -- he was his son, he loved him, and that was it. I was angry
because I didnt like the way he was treated by the church or
society.
Because she wasnt satisfied with what the church was doing,
Mayer wrote to the top, the cardinal. She got a letter back from
Liuzzi telling her he had a job opening. Shes been No. 2 in the ministry
office for a decade. Shes as impressed now as she was then that the
archdiocese would fund two full-time people in the ministry.
Across the 290-parish archdiocese, there are six other churches
that, like St. Dominics, have a parish outreach group. Two of the groups
are for Spanish-speaking Catholics. In addition, there are nine welcoming
parishes, where lesbians and gays find a welcome but not an active
Ministry with Lesbian and Gay Catholics group. And there is Sophias
Circle, a lesbian prayer group.
Liuzzi is in constant motion, out speaking or organizing. The
latest ministry effort is to launch a support group for spouses who acknowledge
they are gay, or those whose spouse has come out in the marriage.
Liuzzis first panel discussion on gay spouses will be at an
archdiocesan event, the Los Angeles Religious Education Congress in Anaheim,
Calif., later this month.
Arthur Jones e-mail address is
ajones96@aol.com
National Catholic Reporter, February 16, 2001
[corrected March 30, 2001]
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