Religious
Life Uncommon fulfillment and stability
By PATRICIA LEFEVERE
Special Report Writer
Colleen Quinlivan knew from age 7
that she wanted to be just like Sr. Luann, the Benedictine nun who walked into
her second grade classroom in St. Cloud, Minn., and cinched Quinlivans
future. For 16 years Quinlivan studied with the Benedictine Sisters. She
received her bachelors degree from St. Benedicts College, which the
sisters operate next door to their motherhouse in St. Joseph, Minn.
I desired very early in my life to deepen my relation with
Jesus Christ, Quinlivan told NCR. She discovered Gods love
in the Liturgy of the Hours and in the communal prayers of the Benedictines to
which those wishing to learn more about their community were invited. She also
had Catholic parents who sent all their children to parochial school, attended
Sunday Mass, tithed and helped their parish as volunteers.
The nuns and priests I grew up with were real people for
me. After graduating from St. Benedicts she assumed she could meet
with the Benedictine vocations director, give her a date and then move into the
convent. Quinlivan was crushed when she discovered that they wanted me to
get a job first.
The vocations director suggested that she go away for a couple of
years, experience life, date, keep in touch and visit. During college she had
visited the Benedictines of Ridley, Md., and was invited back and offered a job
with the order. Soon Quinlivan found herself straddling two congregations. She
knew she wanted to become a nun and a Benedictine, but having to pick was
painful. Tension came and went. She worried over what kind of work she would
do, but with the advice of friends in the order, she turned to prayer and
deeper study of the Rule of St. Benedict.
Following two years of discernment, she chose the Maryland
congregation -- 39 Benedictines compared to 450 in the St. Joseph, Minn.,
province. Quinlivan entered in 1990 and took final vows in 1998. Somehow
the smaller community challenged me more. In a larger one I thought I would
just blend and not live up to my potential.
Besides doing vocations work for the Benedictines and the
Wilmington, Del., diocese, she spends two days a week as campus minister at St.
Elizabeth High School in Wilmington. She has created a vocations day for junior
girls at the school. She works with other religious congregations, stays
involved with youth groups and counsels students one on one.
My role is to be present -- to be out witnessing what
religious life is like. Students see her engaged in monthly school
liturgies, morning prayer and in efforts to enhance spiritual awareness among
youth. If the good fairy would descend and grant her any wish, Quinlivan would
ask for a coffee shop -- perhaps an Internet café -- where there would
be a spiritual atmosphere in which to explore faith issues. It might also be a
network center for service projects, which are of great interest to youth, she
said.
We joke about it, but we need to pray about it, she
said, noting that her dream requires some type of vision plus a location,
funding and youth involvement. Ideally, shed like to open a coffee
shop close to a college, agreeing with Generation X theologian Tom Beaudoin
that you gotta hang where they hang.
Until her dream arrives, Quinlivan plans to continue her efforts
to attract youth to religious life through weekend retreats and invitations to
overnight in her community among young women who seek to know more about the
Benedictines. We can draw them in by the example of how we live. We can
show them that religious life offers deep fulfillment and stability in a world
where these features are uncommon.
Quinlivan shares a house in Wilmington with three other sisters,
all of whom work in different places. They pray mornings and evenings together
and spend time talking about their goals. We need to work at community,
to make it a priority.
The sisters own their house. Each of them gives her salary to the
monastery and each receives a $75 monthly stipend for personal expenses. Food
and transportation costs are provided by the congregation as is health
insurance.
At 34, Quinlivan is the second youngest in her congregation. The
39 Ridley Benedictines range in age from 31 to 98 with the median age being 72.
Seven of the sisters are in full retirement. The majority of those in their 70s
are still working in health ministries. She attributes their good health and
longevity to community ties and good communication. They know they are
never alone. The younger ones bond with the older ones.
Quinlivan credits the faith and prayer life of the sisters as
contributing not only to the life and health of the older nuns, but to
motivating the younger ones. Im inspired when I see a 90-year-old
sister getting up and getting to prayer when she doesnt feel like it or
doesnt have to. Our wisdom figures didnt run. Theyve remained
faithful, she said.
National Catholic Reporter, February 23,
2001
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